Senior Sex: Tips for Sex After 70
Whether you’re a swinging septuagenarian or just a curious young whippersnapper, we suspect you’re here because you have questions about the sex lives of older people.
We’ll cross our fingers that your search results weren’t too…uh, graphic…on the way here. While many younger individuals look at seniors as infirm, elderly or off their game, there’s plenty of reason to believe that the retirement-age generation is having some of the best sex of their lives.
Cars replaced horses a very long time ago, but if you’re looking to get back in the saddle yourself, you don’t need to be self-conscious, ashamed or feel like you’re the odd man out. You do, however, need to keep some precautions and tips in mind to stay safe, uninjured and able to keep performing until your centennial.
Below, we’ll go over some essential health data for any sexually active senior and offer tips for those who’ve been out of commission (and those who need a tune-up).
Can a 70-Year-Old Man Be Sexually Active?
Of course, 70-year-old men can be sexually active. Michael Caine is in his 90s, and if you don’t think…okay, we’ll skip the detailed imagery. The point is, age doesn’t limit your active sex life any more than calorie data limits ice cream intake.
Provided you’re in good-ish health, you can enjoy sex over 70 and well beyond. But various issues could prevent you from having sex in your gilded years.
We’re going to assume pregnancy isn’t your main goal. But beyond fertility, some sex-related changes may take place as you get older:
Your overall sex drive might become weaker, reducing your interest in intimacy.
You could develop erectile dysfunction (ED) and struggle to get or stay hard enough for sex or masturbation.
It might be more difficult to reach orgasm, and ejaculating may be delayed or hurried.
Muscle tone, stamina and strength may all decline, making sex more rigorous and challenging.
Your injury risk goes up due to brittle bones and weaker muscles.
You might experience a gradual decline in testosterone levels.
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Senior Sex and Well-Being
The good news is that, while sex may not make these specific problems disappear, it can have a generally positive impact on your life — and maybe indirectly make your sex life better, too.
Scientists (even the ones not yet in their 70s) generally agree that older sex presents numerous quality-of-life benefits, including:
Higher enjoyment of life. A study published in the journal Sexual Medicine surveyed nearly 7,000 men and women with a mean age of 65. It found that seniors who reported at least one sexual event in the past year had higher enjoyment of life scores than their peers.
Improved overall health. Sex is a form of mild exercise, similar to a leisurely walk. In a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, healthcare professionals looked at the effects of physical and mental health conditions on sexual activity in adults in The Villages — a retirement community in Florida. It concluded that sexual activity offers physical and emotional health benefits.
Better social life. The above study also mentioned that people with active sex lives in this age bracket were generally more social in their retirement communities.
Tips for Enjoying Sex After 70
As a healthy aging man, you want to have better sex than ever, as often as possible, without causing any sexual problems like STDs or medical conditions like chronic pain. You’ll also want to manage your risk of heart attack. It’s a long list of big ambitions.
How you get there is up to you, but we’re certain you won’t hit peak good sex without doing the following things.
Check Your General Health Regularly
Look, getting old while sexually active is like driving a classic car: You’re going to get lots of looks, but you have to take the thing to the shop anytime it’s not working correctly.
Part of this is just ED prevention. Cardiovascular disease and type 2 diabetes are two common causes of erectile dysfunction, and both occur more frequently in older adults.
Regularly check in with your primary care provider about your sexual health and testosterone levels (which research suggests decrease at an average of 1.6 percent a year).
Atherosclerosis (clogged arteries) and hypertension (high blood pressure) are also known causes of erectile dysfunction that occur more frequently in middle-aged and older men.
Maintain a Healthy, Active Lifestyle
Exercise is crucial for keeping medical conditions that could cause ED at bay. Conversely, a sedentary lifestyle can increase your risk of erectile dysfunction. So maintain a healthy, active lifestyle, engage in regular physical activity and try to eat a balanced diet.
We’re not talking marathons and deadlifts — a daily walk around the neighborhood and a salad for dinner are great starts, especially if the salad contains lean sources of protein.
Staying active may have the added benefit of improving brain function and protecting against cognitive impairment.
Sweating to the oldies takes on a new meaning if you’re hitting the gym for sex after 60. Yes, having sex burns calories, but keeping the pace up builds cardio health and stamina.
It can also help you maintain a healthy body weight, all of which reduce your risk of age-related health problems like heart disease that could keep you from having sex.
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Take Care of Your Brain
Speaking of the ol’ brain, it’s important to protect what’s upstairs.
Sure, cognitive decline is no one’s idea of a retirement plan, but anxiety, depression, sexual performance anxiety and psychological ED will affect your performance if left untreated. Your self-esteem, comfort with your body and overall happiness can impact erectile health at any age.
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Consider Using Medication to Treat ED
ED is treatable with medication, in many cases. The FDA (U.S. Food and Drug Administration) has approved a number of PDE5 inhibitors, including sildenafil (the active ingredient in Viagra®), tadalafil (Cialis®), vardenafil (Levitra®) and avanafil (Stendra®).
These medications work to improve blood flow to your penis and are safe and effective for older men. Still, inform your healthcare provider about other medications you use because some ED medications interact poorly with others.
Understand the Importance of Lubrication
Sexual function problems aren’t just a guy’s issue. Women experience hormonal changes with age, leading to vaginal dryness, which can make sex less enjoyable for everyone.
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Make Sure to Practice Safe Sex
While sexually transmitted diseases are a risk for any age group, it turns out that older adults may think less about these risks. That’s what a dramatic worldwide increase in sexual infections among older adults says to us, anyway.
Getting tested for STDs (like gonorrhea, syphilis and HIV) is a vital part of safe sex, as are condoms, which are the second best way of avoiding sexually transmitted infections — the number one way, of course, is abstinence.
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Remember Your Partner Is Aging Too
Maybe you’re one of those guys dating well out of his age range — and more power to you if you’re having a good time. For the rest of us, though, our partners in the same general age range are aging at a similar rate, and they’ll eventually have their own age-related problems.
For older women, menopause affects sex drive, estrogen production, natural lubrication and reproductive health. That’s not to mention the same potential heart issues and other health risks that increase as the number of candles on their birthday cakes does.
Just because you feel like you could go fight a bear doesn’t mean your partner is feeling as virile. So make sure to communicate, and be aware of limitations on both sides of the bed.
Try Thinking Outside the Box
Maybe the last time you read sex tips, they were written by an under-40 Hugh Hefner. But creativity shouldn’t be something you outgrow, you know? It should be something that becomes more prevalent over time, like incontinence.
Sex toys, such as vibrators, massagers and sex pillows, are great tools for keeping things interesting. But oral sex, mutual masturbation and other non-penetrative forms of sex can keep everyone excited for longer.
When in Doubt, Keep It Simple
Remember, man, no pressure. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by what seems necessary for a satisfying sex life, take a step back. Ignore what’s trendy or new, and don’t feel obligated to have sex on a daily basis or every other day — it doesn’t even have to be once a week or once a fortnight.
Do what you enjoy, and don’t compete with anyone. Sex isn’t a competition — a sexual relationship with your partner is cooperative.
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Enjoying Sex at 70: Takeaways
Age is just a number, sir. And if you’re trying to increase your number of partners while enjoying your best years, more power to you.
Sexual desires change as you age, as does your ability to get up and out. But if you’ve got one (or one hundred) last rides in you, here’s what we’d say before you ride out of town:
As you age, issues like erectile dysfunction become more common.
Getting and maintaining a hard-on after 65 is often more of a challenge than it was when you were younger.
ED medications, a healthy, active lifestyle and generally taking care of your mind and body can help you live your sex life to the fullest.
Luckily, this isn’t a ride you have to take alone. We’re here to help, especially with questions about how often couples have sex, what age men stop being sexually active and what happens when a man is not sexually active.
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This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. The information contained herein is not a substitute for and should never be relied upon for professional medical advice. Always talk to your doctor about the risks and benefits of any treatment or medication.
